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Mom’s Great Granddaughter’s Great Song

My eight year old granddaughter, Livi, is a talented, beautiful, creative ball of energy and, like her great grandmother and me, loves to sing!

She wrote this song in a matter of minutes, we captured it on video, and I’ve been playing it and singing it for mom ever since.

And, just like you would have guessed, mom loves to watch the video waving her hands, tapping her feet and humming along.

Every time mom watches it, she asks, “Who is that girl you’re singing with?”

When I tell her it’s her great granddaughter, Livi, mom just smiles and says, “I know Livi! She is the most beautiful girl in the world! She sure does sing a great song.”

Lyrics: Livi’s Great Song  

I love you, we all love each other

In a world we’ll be all we can be

I love you, we all love each other

In a world we’ll see all we can see

In a world we’ll be all we can be

In a world we’ll see all we can see

In a world we’ll be all we can see

Not Pink, Not Black, But Red All Over

Me: Mom, what color is the bible?

Mom: Pink.

Me: Pink?!

Mom: No, darker than that. Red.

It’s got to be a powerhouse color because it holds all that blah, blah, blah. It is not pink. It is red. And that’s it.

Me: Mom, have you ever seen a black bible?

Mom: No. There is no such thing. Black bibles are just red ones that are dirty. Some people use their bibles so much they just get them dirty. They don’t stop and wash their hands before they read like they should.

Me: So, mom, what color are bibles?

Mom: Bibles are all really red. I told you that … and that’s it.

My Mom is 92!

As of Christmas Day, my 91 year old mom is 92!

My wife (Melissa), daughters (Tovi and Lissi), son-in-laws (Chris & Ty), grandkids (Thomas, Patrick, Fisher, Livi, Kenzie and Tyli), and I all celebrated her birthday in grand style.

Five of the grand kids each stuck 15 candles into a homemade chocolate cake (mom’s favorite) and one got to finish it off with 17.

When we lit the cake to present it to mom, not only did the room light up like a fireworks finale on the Fourth of July, the temperature in the entire house heated up at least ten degrees! I thought Smokey the Bear would appear any minute and say, “Only YOU can prevent forest fires.”

And, let me tell you, mom blew those candles out like nobody’s business. After 91 years of blowing out an ever increasing number of candles, today would be a piece of cake. This lady was on a mission! Practice made perfect.

Those 92 candles made quite an impression on all of us, especially the kids. They now know what 92 looks and feels like. It looks like a humongous bright, shining light, and makes you feel warm all over. It is so very special.

And, the taste? Delicious as a homemade chocolate cake! A taste none of us will ever forget.

We asked mom how old she was and she said, “I don’t know, how old am I?”

When we shouted 92 in unison, she shot back, “I am not. I am no such thing.”

And … one thing we all knew, no matter what age we were … never challenge a lady about her age … especially this one!

With all the commotion going on, we didn’t have time to ask mom what her wish was when she blew out the candles. Besides, her wish was already coming true right before our eyes.

Both of her little hands were grabbing hold of that chocolate cake before we could even take what was left of the smoking candles from the forest fire out, cut and serve it. Chocolate was all over her mouth, but it didn’t stop her from asking for more! All she could say between bites was, ” This is the best cake I have ever tasted in the whole wide world … and that’s it.”

As for our blog being called My 91 Year Old Mom,  it will remain the same until I can figure out how to change the domain name (which was my original idea) and not confuse mom’s ever growing universe of followers.

Just know my mom is now officially 92, no matter what she or the blog title says.

And, I for one will never challenge what she says except in the safe place this blog has become … and that’s  it!

Stay connected, there is sure to be a whole lot more I’ll share with you on my mom’s and my ever unfolding journey of a lifetime.

It’s My Party …

A Special Visitor on Mom's Birthday

It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to

Cry if I want to, cry if I want to

You would cry too, if it happened to you

Me: Mom, you are 92 years old, today! What does it feel like to be born on Christmas Day?

Mom:  I cried. Every Christmas I cried.

Me: Why mom?
Mom: Because everybody got presents on my birthday, and I never got presents on theirs.
PostScript: Well, our family can’t wipe away 91 years worth of tears, but we sure do know how to throw a party-without-tears.
Join the fun at My Mom is 92!


Mom’s & My Delicious Cool Whip Video

If this isn’t a great commercial for Cool Whip, I don’t know what one is!

Mom and I can’t get enough of this crazy stuff.

So what are you waiting for? Get yourself a bowl of Cool Whip, a spoon and join us in doing the Cool Whip!

It’s the delicious, new hand dance that’s taking the world by storm!

Forget-Me-Not

An email from my oldest daughter, Tovi

Dear Dad,

On the ride back home to Wilmington from Richmond … I did what you know I often do…I cried and was sad pretty much the entire four hour trip.

Since I left Richmond to attend the University of South Carolina in 1990 it’s always the same. Richmond was our home, the only home I ever knew growing up and no matter where I have lived since, coming back makes me remember how much I miss it. And that why the sadness and the tears.

So my boys asked me what was wrong and I said I always get sad leaving you, grandma and Richmond and that this time was particularly hard because grandma never once called me by my name. I don’t think she really knew who I was. She did tell me I was beautiful, amazing and she was soooo excited to see me.  But, like I said, she didn’t really know who I was.

I keep telling myself grandma is 91 and has dementia, but that does not offer a lot of comfort.

Anyway..so I asked the boys which would be better: to be Ms. Mary (the elderly woman that I am a caregiver for in Wilmington), who knows her family and is grumpy and sometimes mean when they come for a visit, OR Grandma who doesn’t know who is coming to visit or for how long or what purpose, but is always so very happy? With grandma, everyone is her favorite … family, friends and strangers alike!

The boys immediately answered that it would be much better to be like grandma … to be happy is so much better!

Boy do they love her and her happy spirit, as do I. But, I grieve over her not remembering me and not knowing just how much of who I am and what I stand for is because of her.

Born Christmas Day. First Name Starts with J.

Scene: 

My mom, Helen, is going to have a birthday this month! She will be 92!

Although her birthday is Christmas day, I thought it would be fun to start getting her excited about it now.

The following conversation occurred this morning in the car on the way to Circle Center, mom’s adult daycare provider.  

Tom: Mom, there are two people who were born on Christmas Day that you have known your whole life. Who are they?

Mom: I don’t know. Who are they?

Tom: Mom, one of them was born in a manger and has a first name that starts with a J.

Mom: Jim!

Tom: Nope.

Mom: Joe!

Tom: Nope. It was Jesus, mom. Jesus was born on Christmas day!

Mom: Oh. I was going to guess Jane.

Tom: And, who was the other person who was born on Christmas Day that you have known your whole life?

Mom: I don’t know. Does it start with a J?

Tom: It starts with an H.

Mom: Well, I don’t know anybody who has a birthday on Christmas with a name that starts with H, but I know plenty who have one that begin with J.

Tom: Who, mom?

Mom: Jim, Joe, Jane and what’s-his-name.

Tom: No, mom. It’s you.

Mom: Nope. It’s Jesus! My name starts with an H.

Tom: Mom, you and Jesus have a birthday on the very same day … Christmas Day!

Mom: I don’t know about that, but I sure do know who Jesus is.

(Mom starts singing and clapping her hands)

Jesus loves the little children,

All the children of the world,

Red and yellow, black and white,

They are precious in his sight,

Jesus loves the little children of the world.

Mom’s Special Thanksgiving Note

When I opened the envelope addressed to Family Laughon the receptionist at Circle Center cheerfully handed me, I was not expecting the surprise that was waiting for me inside.

It was a card and the cover read, A Season of Thanks.

After opening it I found myself captured by the picture of my little mom in that big old chair, the printed message and most of all, mom’s signature!

It reminded me of when I would get cards from my daughters, Tovi and Lissi, when they were in pre-school, kindergarten and lower school. I could see their drawings, their messages and their signatures flash before me.

Those cards were priceless and so is this one from mom.

Thanks and hugs go to the magic caregivers’ at Circle Center, mom’s daycare-extraordinaire castle, club house … world.

Like I said, I love mom’s signature!

Oh, and did I also mention, I love my mom!

These are special times, make the most of them!

Make sure you give thanks to the people who are meaningful in your life.

Happy Thanksgiving … A Season of Thanks!

He’s Got the Whole World …

If you haven’t realized it by now, mom loves to sing. She always has and our family has, too.

So, it was not unusual for one or all of us to break out in song anytime, night or day. And today, at breakfast, it was no exception.

Mom transformed the spoon in her right hand from a utensil for eating cereal to a drumstick for beating on the table and started singing, “he’s got the whole world in his hands, he’s got the whole world in his hands, he’s got the whole world in his hands, he’s got the whole world in his hands,” to the beat of her own drum.

Needless to say, I was singing harmony and clapping my hands to mom’s beat. It was a great way to kick start the day!

Minutes later, we were in the car heading to mom’s adult day care when she started singing again, and frankly my mind was on an upcoming traffic light and so I wasn’t paying attention to the song she was singing. But, when I realized she was singing He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands, but with a new twist, I was fully engaged.

She was singing at top of her lungs, “he’s got the whole world in his pants, he’s got the whole world in his pants, he’s got the whole world in his pants, he’s got the whole world in his pants.”

I don’t know if the traffic light was red, green or yellow. And, before I could say anything, mom stopped singing, looked at me and said, “that’s funny.”

That’s when I started to laugh.

All I could say was, “Lord only knows, mom. What goes on in heaven, stays in heaven.”

Happy Birthday! By the Way, How Old Are You?

 

Age does not make us childish, as some say; it finds us true children. – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Tom: Mom, tomorrow is my birthday!

Mom: That’s thrilling!

Tom: Guess how old I will be.

Mom: Two years old!

Tom: That is exactly right! I will be two years old tomorrow.

Mom: I know that. I have been with you all of my life and I just love you! I love you. I just really love you!

Tom: I love you, too! By the way … how old are you, mom?

Mom: Two. I’m two, too! Two, two, two.

PS – My birthday is November 16th. Mom’s is December 25th.

I can’t wait for mom to be three. Being the same age is  just way too hard to explain.

And … I love it!